During more than a decade of online dating, I got some valuable help through regular visits with a therapist. During those visits she recommended some books to help me cope with the stresses of online dating, of which there were many! One of those books was The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It focuses on four simple yet powerful agreements to live by. The agreements are with yourself. These agreements helped me tremendously as I applied them to my online dating.

Don’t Be A Victim! The best way to avoid becoming the victim of a romance scam is to know the red flags. During the years I online dated, I perused hundreds and hundreds of dating profiles. Over time, I became quite proficient in spotting suspicious profiles.

One of the biggest challenges in online dating is when you meet someone and something just doesn’t feel right, or it feels too right. You can become overwhelmed by displays of romance and affection. Could it be love at first sight? Or is it a warning sign?

Role of AI to improve online dating safety

As I prepared to write my memoir, I had the opportunity to interview one of the women in my swim group, who is also a therapist. She’s retired now, but her words of wisdom and advice about online dating still ring true.